How to change your habits for the better || BLOGVEMBER DAY 6

Hello cutecumbers, and welcome to blogvember day 6! In one of my previous posts, I tell you (in one of the steps) that once things become habits, you get that momentum. And, I myself have recently tried switching out a lot of bad habits for a lot of positive and productive habits. And it wasn't easy, let me tell you. Especially since I am such a conformist, I like doing stuff for the temporary satisfaction, I like feeling satisfied. And I believe that I am not the only one. No, I know that I am not the only one. But, I changed. I woke up one morning, and I decided that I am tired of temporary stuff. That I want to feel long term happiness and satisfaction. That I want to wake up, do shit, and then go to bed without feeling regret, sadness, self-pity. I decided to switch up my habits, to get inspired daily by myself, and these are the steps which helped me do this:

  • Firstly, you need to decide what habits you want to change. What helped me the most in deciding what my bad habits are and what habits I want to adopt is this- I sat down with a pen and a paper and I started thinking about my usual day. What I do in a day, what I think about, how I behave towards my chores/work, how much do I smoke, how often do I eat, how much water I intake throughout a day... Every. Little. Bit. It was immensely hard, as you have to be as objective as you can. Which isn't always easy. So the point here is DON'T LIE TO YOURSELF. After about 2 and a half hours of pondering about me as a person through my daily routines/habits, I looked over at the paper and took a highlighter and I highlighted everything which made me displeased or unhappy. And there were quite a few things. After that, I picked another piece of paper and wrote down how I ideally want me to be. And I described a perfect person in my opinion. Then, I picked out 3 bad habits (habits which I am not pleased with) and 3 good habits (habits which I want to adopt) and starting from tomorrow I decided to switch them. It wasn't easy, and I failed more than I didn't. Here's why:

  • I failed because I didn't have my why. I identified all the bad stuff and decided on all the good stuff, but I didn't have a why behind all of that. Why do I want to go vegetarian? Why do I want to have a better morning routine? Why do I want to drink more water? To study more? To work more? Why, why, why? And because I didn't know the answers- I failed. Once I identified my whys, it got easier. I got an outcome to look forward to, i.e. I will get better looking skin if I drink more water. I could look forward to some results. And that is what kept me going.

  • If it wasn't for my boyfie (sending you love bae) and my brother, who knew what I was doing right from the start, I would also most likely fail. So, the next tip is this- find someone to keep you accountable. Find someone who will know if you fuck up. Whether that is your parent, your partner, your colleague, your friend or even an online person- doesn't matter. As long as you know that someone knows that you are making a change, you will be afraid of failing. Because it's one thing to disappoint yourself, but it's a completely different thing to disappoint someone else. So get a buddy which will track your progress.

  • As long as we're on the topic of buddies, try surrounding yourself with people who want to change in the same manner, preferably to the same degree as you are. Find a few people who also want to go to the gym 3 times a week. Try asking your partner to change his/her diet along with you, to go vegan/vegetarian with you. Ask your brother to help you wake up earlier so you two can share morning cup of coffee together. Find someone who will help you in your path, not by just keeping you accountable but also by joining you in the path. Not only is this helpful on a day to day basis, but when you fail they will know it is hard. They will know because, hell it's hard for them too!

  • When you fail, and you will (don't lie to yourself), get back up. Dust yourself off, make a change in the plan, see what didn't work and try to find a solution which will. Changing yourself is a trial and error process, which can last for so long that you might not be able to see where is it that you are trying to get. But, giving up is not an option. If you give up, you will fail yourself, you will fail your partners, and you will regret it for the rest of your life. So, if running outside isn't for you, try going to the gym to run on a treadmill. Running isn't your cup of tea? Try yoga, try aerobics, try lifting... See what works and what doesn't. Adjust accordingly.

  • The best way to see what works and what doesn't, and what your progress is, keep track of it all. Whether you want to use an online tool, like FitBit, or Google fit, or Instagram to post your befores and afters, or you want to jot down your wake up time and sleep time in your planner- doesn't matter. Track your mood, track your feelings, track your weight or the amount of sleep you are getting, track it all! I use a habit tracker to track all the habits which I am currently trying to adopt, as well as a sleep tracker where I am making a graph of sleep time and wake up time. Find what system works for you, and use it often.

  • Finally, use the Three R's system. The system is simple, you have:
       1. Reminder - something that triggers you to do the habit, i.e. setting your gym clothes the night before for the morning or turning notifications in your phone's calendar.
       2. Routine- repeat the reminder thing for long enough until you don't need a reminder no longer, i.e. you get used to putting out your gym clothes each and every night or you know that at certain times you are at your desk studying etc.
       3. Reward- after getting the habit in your daily routines, you reward yourself. For example, you can buy yourself that cute sports bra which you've been eyeing up for quite a bit after you've exercised 3 times a week for a full month.

There you have it cutecumbers, this is how I got my habits in order. If you're curious about what habits I wanted to implement it's the following:
I wanted to wake up each day at 7:30.
I wanted to start working out 3 times a week (still in progress)
I wanted to do my day skin care and night skin care routine daily.
I wanted to read 10 pages a day.
I wanted to work every day for 4 to 5 hours.
Some of these I'm still having a problem with, but I am working on it. I took me a while to realize that all of us are a work in progress. I took me even longer to realize that what is hindering me back is perfectionism. Once I realized what I making it difficult for me, I managed to find hacks which help me get around those problems.
Hope this post was helpful for you guys! I would love to hear about your habits and how you are trying to get them in line. Hit me up on twitter, IG or down bellow in the comment section! Let's be friends! 
Lots of love,



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